Kids can be a deal-breaker. One of my psych professors works as a marriage counselor, and in his experience couples can compromise on a lot--religion, jobs, even television shows, but kids tend to be a sticking point. I can see Amy feeling inadequate because she can't have children. She loves Rory and KNOWS that he has always wanted children and that it's a big part of who he is--but instead of talking to him and instead of considering other alternatives (like adoption) she jumps the gun and pushes him away under the auspices of 'giving him up.' She was protecting herself from being hurt, not being selfless. Honestly, I'm not surprised that Rory threw his time as the Last Centurion in her face because he still loves her and her rejection HURTS, so yeah, he's a bit bitter.
Also, they never dealt with the trauma of losing Melody. Fuck, the doppleganger baby DISSOLVED IN AMY'S ARMS and after her freak out at Demon's Run we don't hear about it. True, she spends time away from the Doctor, but losing a child is a horrible, awful thing that will have lasting consequences, EVEN IF they know that River Song is their daughter. They hardly know this woman! And she's regenerated, which means that all the little things that parents know about their children (what color they like, how they act when they're angry, what their favorite food is) has changed. Amy and Rory's split was a long time coming, because they don't exactly deal with their issues. On the TARDIS Amy could escape, could lose herself in another adventure and not think about the monsters that live inside her closet, but in the real world, on the slow path--there is no escape and those monsters come out at night (the ghosts of Christmas past, as it were).
The Doctor wants to 'fix' them, but he can't even fix himself! (Physician, heal thyself) It's like when he took them to Venice--his solution was 'have an adventure!' But that doesn't work on the slow path. There's a reason he keeps running, because he doesn't know how to do anything else. Because he can't stop. Because being married, being in a relationship with another person, that's hard. Paying the bills, having a job, all those things the Doctor deems to be 'domestic'--it takes work. Saving the world is easy. It's life that's hard.
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Date: 2 September 2012 07:04 pm (UTC)Also, they never dealt with the trauma of losing Melody. Fuck, the doppleganger baby DISSOLVED IN AMY'S ARMS and after her freak out at Demon's Run we don't hear about it. True, she spends time away from the Doctor, but losing a child is a horrible, awful thing that will have lasting consequences, EVEN IF they know that River Song is their daughter. They hardly know this woman! And she's regenerated, which means that all the little things that parents know about their children (what color they like, how they act when they're angry, what their favorite food is) has changed. Amy and Rory's split was a long time coming, because they don't exactly deal with their issues. On the TARDIS Amy could escape, could lose herself in another adventure and not think about the monsters that live inside her closet, but in the real world, on the slow path--there is no escape and those monsters come out at night (the ghosts of Christmas past, as it were).
The Doctor wants to 'fix' them, but he can't even fix himself! (Physician, heal thyself) It's like when he took them to Venice--his solution was 'have an adventure!' But that doesn't work on the slow path. There's a reason he keeps running, because he doesn't know how to do anything else. Because he can't stop. Because being married, being in a relationship with another person, that's hard. Paying the bills, having a job, all those things the Doctor deems to be 'domestic'--it takes work. Saving the world is easy. It's life that's hard.
And that's the end of my rant. >.< Sorry!